I’m not sure what the scoop is on Taylor Swift, whether people love her or hate her.
Frankly, I’m just not the kind of person who spends much time keeping up on what’s happening in Hollywood.
It’s just not my thing.
But today, I am following, because, in case you haven’t heard, she’s countersuing Colorado DJ, David Mueller, for sexual harassment following his lawsuit against her for defamation of character.
Taylor has alleged the man slipped his hand under her skirt and grabbed her ass. Upon reporting this to station, the man was consequently fired from his $150,000/year job and wants to recoup losses in damages.
Mueller is suing Swift for 3 million and she’s countersuing him for 1 million, reportedly saying she doesn’t want to ruin and/or bankrupt Mueller, but she wants to set an example. To make a point.
So, she’s been testifying in court today. She’s been taking a stand to stand against a culture that makes it seem, well, okay for women to be harassed and groped and, well, raped.
We live in a world where, as women, we are taught to believe that these things happen to us because of the clothing we wear, or how we dress, or how we act. It doesn’t. It happens because we live in a society and culture where people believe they can get away with this crap.
If someone gropes you, it isn’t your fault. You didn’t do anything to deserve that. Whether you’re a man or a woman, your body is your body and your space is your space.
And so Taylor’s saying the same thing that women everywhere are saying. Today in court she literally said, “I’m not going to allow you or your client to make me feel like this was my fault, because it isn’t.”
And that’s the truth. It isn’t her fault. And I applaud her for speaking out.
It’s never your fault when someone touches you inappropriately.
I have worked with hundreds of people who have been victims of sexual assault, both men and women. Men and women who blame themselves.
And today, while scrolling through the news, I read a man’s comment on a CBC article that literally made me physically ill.
This “gentleman” actually states and I quote, “get over yourself Taylor.”
How would you feel if that was your daughter?
Yeh, get over yourself Taylor, you asked for it. Cover up next time. I mean, we all know you’re secretly proud that someone grabbed your ass.
Like, wtf is that even?
Taylor and I are the same age, and I’ve had my ass grabbed, I’ve had guys attempt to stick their hands up my shirt. I’ve run down more streets and been whistled at more often than I can count.
And if you think that makes me feel sexy, or good about myself, you’re dead wrong. We are people first and foremost, not slabs of meet. Your creepy whistle doesn’t turn me on or make me feel good about myself. In truth, it makes me feel violated.
When I go for a run, I’d prefer if you’d shut up and let me run in peace. And I’m not about to speak for everyone, but I’m pretty sure, when I say these things, I’m speaking for the majority.
It’s time to reclaim our bodies.
Today, I became a T-Swift fan. In fact, I am a fan of anyone who is brave enough in this world to stand up for what’s right. Because this world is tough.
I’m standing with women and men everywhere.
End rape culture.
And if you’re unsure of whether what you’re doing or saying is inappropriate, it probably is.
If you have to ask the answer is always no.
And if you’re still not sure ask yourself how’d you feel if that was your wife or your daughter?
Let’s come together on this. Let’s end rape culture.